The Whole Brexit Affair

This article was originally written for a submission to a counselling publication which I hope you will find interesting Just at this moment I’m wondering if the whole country could do with a mass group therapy session to talk through the feelings that have been...

Recognising problems with power and control

Whilst many couples may strive for a 50/50 partnership there are areas when one partner may take on more responsibility than the other or divide up tasks in such a way that total equality is virtually impossible and impractical. There are also situations such as who...

Why we argue over trivial things

I am often presented with clients having very heated arguments about trivial aspects of life. How and when dishes are washed up, constantly checking the phone, not picking up underwear from the bedroom floor are just some of the issues I’ve heard couples say have...

Tips for better arguments

“Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument.” – Desmond Tutu Frequent arguments tend to be the main reason why couples seek the support of counselling or therapy. Invariable these arguments follow a well-worn path that seems to be effective at driving...

Coping with an Affair

I know many people who hold the view that if their partner had an affair that would be the end of the relationship. However, in the counselling room I also work with many couples who may have held that view but find the reality of an affair taking place puts them in a...